Friday, June 16, 2017

Amoris Laetitia - Par. 320

320.  There comes a point where a couple's love attains the height of its freedom and becomes the basis of a healthy autonomy.  This happens when each spouse realizes that the other is not his or her own, but has a much more important master, the one Lord.  No one but God can presume to take over the deepest and most personal core of the loved one; he alone can be the ultimate center of their life. At the same time, the principle of spiritual realism requires that one spouse not presume that the other can completely satisfy his or her needs.  The spiritual journey of each - as Dietrich Bonhoeffer nicely put it - needs to help them to a certain "disillusionment" with regard to the other,382 to stop expecting from that person something which is proper to the love of God alone.  This demands an interior divestment.  The space which each of the spouses makes exclusively for their personal relationship with God not only helps heal the hurts of life in common, but also enables the spouses to find in the love of God the deepest source of meaning in their own lives.  Each day we have to invoke the help of the Holy Spirit to make this interior freedom possible.

382 Cf. Gemeinsames Leben, Munich, 1973, p.18. English: Life Together, New York, 1954, p.27.